Thursday, July 21, 2005

Beware of the Rant

Last week I proposed some topics for posts one of which was Part Time Friendships...lets discuss that - shall we?

RANT BEGINS
Mind you, I understand we live in a time where we are overwhelmed with lots of distractions - whether it be family, friends, work, school, hobbies, church - so on and so forth. I have my friends that I love dearly. I know I live far and I try to stay in touch with them as much as possible - through phone calls (which people will get on the weekends since I'm on a budget and whore out my phone on the weekends because of the free minutes), e-mails (which if you don't write back I wont start again), and IM. IM is my personal fave because it satisfies that whole instant gratification thing I'm so fond of. Now, if I call you and you don't call me back for, lets say 3 weeks, you are going on my list. If I call to drop by and visit you several times and you admit to a mutual acquaintance that you are "blowing me off", you are going on my list. If you are having guy problems and decide to call me and I stay up for hours listening to you cry and then you decide not to communicate with me for weeks on end because you are "in love", you are going on my list. I have decided to re-evaluate my list of "friends". No more - "But I have been calling - I called you for your birthday and Christmas" no more "I'm sorry I've been really busy with other things that I wasn't able to call and see how your life has been going...so how is the divorce and basic implosion of your life coming along?" I'm sick of being that push over friend that will be there whenever you need her. I hate how loyalty just gets you screwed nowadays. I am lucky to have the friends that I have - the loyal ones. And how freaking easy do I make it for my friends to keep up with me - I HAVE A FUCKING BLOG! If you read it, you know exactly what is going on with my life. Sure there are some aspects that I don't talk about in here (like the love life) but for that if you really want to know, pick up a phone or email...you know - PERSONALIZED COMMUNICATION. Damn people in an age where we have countless ways to communicate we sure do find it easy to ignore one another. Scotty boy and I once talked about e-mail friendships and I swear I have no problem with it - as long as the emails go both ways or its not just jokes being forwarded. Scott and I haven't seen each other in 5 years - 5 years! But I feel closer to him than I do some of my other "friends" that even though I've seen here and there don't bother to ask me how my life is going. You'd think since we have known each other for so long that we'd be able to talk about more than the small talk - the "family" the "work". You all know me better than that. You know that I'm probably more excited about hockey coming back than I am about my birthday next month.
RANT OVER

So what do you think - when does the patience run out? Really? I've drawn lines in the sand and then erased and moved them to accommodate the other person. I really hate to sound like a bitch - because truly I am not, but when is enough really enough?

1 comment:

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